Susan Piver does a great job on this recent posting at the elephant journal.
Love can never be made safe. It is the opposite of safe. The moment you try to make it safe, it ceases to be love. I realize this is a bummer, but think about it. Love is predicated on receptivity, on opening up again and again and again to your beloved, each time afresh. To do this, you have to let go of insisting that he or she conform to your standards for what a lover should look like, do, be, say, and instead allow him or her to simply be him or herself. Then you take it from there. To do otherwise, to continually choose who you wish this person was over who he or she actually is, is, well, its not love. I dont know what it is.
via Buddhism & Heartbreak: 3 Suggestions for Mending Your Broken Heart. ~ Susan Piver | elephant journal.